Other Effective Processes
In addition to using the spacious present as a place to seed the future, redo the past, and energize my choices in the immediate present, there are some other processes I’ve discovered that are very helpful in my life.
One of them is being consistently aware of the ongoing flows of my thoughts and emotions, where “I” am both an observer and an experiencer. This is a procedure of allowing whatever is arising to emerge fully, including any attachments such as protection energies I may have formulated about it. As I focus this way in an immediate present, simultaneously I can experience the situation and stand back from the whole thing. Then I can watch it all move on, dissolving as energy forms into a vast sea of unformed potentials. And, if there is something to take care of I do it then or make a note to do so later. This procedure is especially good to use with memories.
Being aware, plus knowing how to effectively make other choices, is a contrast and replacement pattern for processes I used in earlier years when I would keep repeating stories over and over again to myself, especially in situations I was emotionally upset about … I just wouldn’t/couldn’t let go!
I think a really good preparation and practice for this type of Now awareness is a meditation where an individual is in a Witness/Observer position, calmly watching one's thoughts, emotions, memories, plans, and whatever—the contents of one’s mind—emerge and then move on. As a result, when amidst physical activity situations, it becomes much easier to be aware, and then let the mental/emotional activities appropriately dissolve—which also includes joy, pleasure, and excitement. This works especially well if some unpleasantness such as frustration arises—that is, see/experience it and let it go, as contrasted with enlarging it by telling oneself how frustrated one is.
Another effective large-scale pattern and process I’ve energized for about seven years now on a continuous basis is one of consciously attuning myself to what is in the highest good for all being everywhere, and then playing my part as best I can within that matrix as I understand it. When I combine the highest good design with one where what I do and don’t do is done in such a way where others are truly free to choose their responses, without fears of reprisals from me, I feel liberated and joyful! And my sense of my own worth isn’t tied up with what someone else does or doesn’t do. Instead, my focus is upon getting my part right, and then letting it go. All of this is in contrast to relationship patterns that are used in what I’ve called bands B and A, where oppositions, hierarchies, obligations, and controlling are ever-present.
Speaking of freedom, during the past couple of years I’ve become much freer in terms of being able to suggest and request something in relationship with others, and then having no problem if there’s a refusal. On the other hand, this procedure gives me and others opportunities for our lives we might not have if I didn’t play my part this way. And to my mind, I’m really not risking anything!
Prayers energized to God and into the whole realm of divinity for assistance, while in the midst of a situation, have been very effective in recent years. Answers and aid sometimes come immediately and other times I need to appeal more than once, like an S.O.S. signal. Obviously, part of this whole dynamic of communications and connections is my expectation that I’ll receive responses, which I always do—and for my part, that I need to listen and be open.
I’ve discovered that my Life is a lot easier when I think about it as an expanding process, where “I” and it are expanding together.
A really fun procedure, wherein I experience feelings of increasing potency, is when I imaginatively give myself what I want and think I need. This works well if there seems to be a lack somewhere in my life. The perceived lack could be in one of my relationships or just a general sense of nonfulfillment. In such a situation, oftentimes during my afternoon meditation, I imaginatively play out a script in which I meet my own wants and needs. This process usually gives me more insight and perspective. Furthermore, it gives others an opportunity in the invisible realm of connections to consider different options. Again, what I’m doing is done in a way where there are no strings attached as far as my originations of these kinds are concerned.
Imaginatively creating mental pictures of courses of action, and then using my body organism as a sensing tool to determine what choice feels best, has been very helpful.
One night amidst the third quarter of my seasonal natural world year of “Putting It All Together”—the harvest—I was awake a lot. I felt like many patterns and processes were being stirred up in my psychic structure. During the night I realized that in certain instances in the past, I hadn’t liked myself in some relationship events. There were also long-ago concerns emerging that night—fear forms—I almost never experience in my life of today. Even so, I’ve learned to not be dismayed, viewing it all as a normal part of what I’m doing.
The next morning when I reflected from an expanded position about the night before, I saw that “I” in those days had been using some cultural evaluators of a “good person,” a caring, compassionate woman, and that if I had energized those designs for any length of time as operating patterns for my identity, quite possibly “I” would have been stuck in those types of relationship dances. Instead, in those days I was searching for other matrixes and wavelengths that I somehow knew would be better for me and those I related with. Nevertheless, those criticizing evaluators about myself that I had applied in earlier years were entwined with some past experiences. Adding to the overall complexity, I also hadn’t really enjoyed how I emotionally felt in those situations. And so what emerged for me to take a look at were these multiple, intermixed energy combinations amidst specific past memories.
After my night of wakefulness, the next day I was compassionate with myself, using penetrating Understandings of the larger dimensional picture. Does this mean I see actions that can be called inconsiderate and/or hurtful as desirable? No, it doesn’t. It means that within the context of those times when I didn’t like myself very well, I felt I needed to do what I did. And I think this applies to many humans for many different reasons, including tribal customs, group religious beliefs, and social mores that encompass gender roles and their expectations.
I feel that this whole lengthy night-time experience, including evaluations the next day that were appropriately assimilated and released, were all part of the expansions and evolving transformations that have been unfolding in my Life for many years now.
Concluding this chapter, the process of letting everything go on a daily basis during meditations—both within my psychic structure and body organism—has brought forth marvelous cumulative effects that I know will continue to manifest appropriately in divine time, natural world time, and cultural time.
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